how to decide?
You’ve got a decision to make. And you’d like to talk it over with someone. But who?If you have someone close to you – a partner, family member, friend – are they the right person? They might want the best for you, but they also have plenty of pre-formed ideas of the sort of person they think you are and the sort of thing they feel would be right for you.And maybe you don’t even have someone that you could discuss something important with?So what do you do? Accost a random stranger and hope they will be willing to spare you some of their time? Try to figure it out on your own? Sign up with a counsellor and spend aeons of your life and a lot of money unpicking it week by week?Or talk to me.
outside input
I’m Toby, and I am here to help you decide. To be an objective sounding board, a sparring partner who will listen, ask questions, probe, but who has no skin in the game and no preconceived notions about who you are (or who you should be).It’s simple: a one hour Zoom call during which we discuss the decision you need to make. Exploring the options and the implications. Seeing how they feel. Digging down and looking round. And working out what you could do, rather than what you should do.
about me
asking why
I’m a qualified life coach and have a degree in philosophy & psychology, as well as an ongoing interest in 'philosophies of living' such as Stoicism.
But actually, those are not my most important skills. Primarily, I’m very good at asking questions, at probing, at uncovering stuff, and above all, at asking “why?” repeatedly. Which can be really annoying, but helps you to get to the nub of the issue.Do remember that I will not make the decision for you. The domain name is ‘help me decide’, not ‘decide for me’. Ultimately it’s your call - as with every decision you ever make in life (even the ones where you decide to let someone else make the decision). But hopefully at the end of the hour you will have a clearer idea of where you are and where you want to go, and have everything you need to make that decision clear-sightedly, happily and with confidence.
the next step
let's do it
A one hour Zoom session to discuss your problem and hopefully help you reach a decision costs £ 50 (GBP).
I accept payment in any currency via Paypal or bank transfer to Wise.
I am based in the UK, so my schedule generally runs on GMT (London time).
Fill in the contact form below with your details and some idea of what you're struggling to decide about, and we can set up the session. Let's get that decision made.
you're on your way
thank you
That's the first important step in making your decision. I will be in touch soon, and in the meantime, mull on all the aspects and do any necessary research you can, so we can get the most out of our session.
I look forward to us doing some great work together.